singleness

Hi friends,

Happy February. This is what people call “the season of love.” This week starts a new series we have, Godly pursuit. Each week we will be interviewing guests and discussing what it means to have God-honoring relationships. This week, we will have no guests because we are talking about singleness, and well, Addy and I are single. So let’s go.

I honestly had mixed feelings when I heard that I was scheduled to talk about this. For one, I have learned a lot about this recently. But also, I struggle with this a lot.

Single, the internet told me that single means, “to refer to someone who is not involved in any type of serious romantic relationship, including long-term dating, engagement, marriage, or someone who is single by choice.” I fall into this category. I have never been on a date or in a serious relationship. This embarrassed me for a long time, and sometimes still does. If you look at my “love life” from a worldly view, yes it may seem embarrassing. But God tells me that this is beautiful. You see, I get in seasons where I want to be in a relationship so bad. This comes from a place inside me that thinks a boy can fill a void only God can. I used to get so mad when people who are married would tell me to treasure being single. I would think, how dare you, you are happily married, you have no right, I know that is extremely rude, but that’s how I felt. Those people were telling me this out of a place of love because they do not want me to waste a special time in my life rushing to the next thing.

Honestly, I am glad I am single. I used to say stuff like this to help me feel better, but I am slowly starting to realize how amazing this is. I know right now I am not ready for a relationship, I do not want anything or anyone distracting me from my relationship with God. I know that God's plan for my life is better than anything I could imagine. I know that when the time is right, God will place someone in my life that He chose for me. I pray that person is running after God and will always point me to God. No person can ever fulfill me, a tough lesson to learn, but it is true.

Singleness is a season in your life that can seem like a punishment, but it’s a gift. I encourage you to pray for your future spouse. I pray that God is preparing his heart the same way God is preparing mine. Do not let anyone ever tell you that being single is lame or bad. In fact, being single is one of the best gifts God has ever given me. I am excited for the future and for a future season of dating, but for right now God is teaching me to be enough in Him first.

My heart,

Sophie